Before I get started on this post, I would like to thank every individual who commented on my last post about my 1 year anniversary I had with Kevin. Your thoughtful and kind words really resonated well with me and I appreciate you all taking the time to share your opinions on it.
Now judging from the title, you know this is going to be about what I briefly touched upon that last post. First off, I got a touch up 3 weeks prior to getting my sew in recently which was stupid, I know that now. Had I known any better, I would have waited to get a sew in much later in my post relaxer but I take it as a lesson learned after going through this painfully terrible hair experience for about the past 2 weeks.
I went to get a sew-in because I wanted to try the ombre hairstyle but most importantly it is my preferred choice of a protective style for my ends. Hence why my ends have been retained so well since I began my hair journey to longer hair and healthier hair. So far it’s proven to be very effective for me so when people ask me why I get sew-ins when my hair is already so long, you understand my reason for doing so.
Okay so lemme just skip to the chase now…I went to an old childhood best friend of mine who I found out did hair and would charge me a cheap price since we grew up together so ofc as a college student with hardly any income, I took up that offer the moment I got enough money. I went to her on a Monday and she asked me if I was tender headed to which I replied no. Had I known she was heavy-handed, I would have just said yes but I’ve gone to several different people in the past and never have I made an extreme fuss about them manipulating my hair for any style. Braids, touch-ups, glued in tracks, you name it I’ve never had a problem with it.
So she proceeded and at first, it felt normal. The hair at my roots was taut but not enough to make me think it was excessive. She continued all the way up till she was getting to the closure piece and that was when I felt extreme throbbing. My scalp felt like it was literally going to bust open.
Yeah, it was that tight! I told her that it was tight and she suggested for me to just take pain killers so I did before I left her house and that honestly didn’t do a whole lot but it helped a bit so I drove home and went to bed thinking it would ease up a little in the morning but I was sadly mistaken. This pain went on for a full week and some days. It had finally eased off momentarily for about 2 days then out of nowhere I started experiencing this minor headache that progressively grew into a more severe massive one that went on for the following three days. It felt like it was pain shooting in my brain from one end to the other and I also noticed I had 4 nickel sized lumps at the back of my neck behind my ears which hadn’t been there prior to these headaches. I got scared this was linked to some type of cancer since I know I have it in my family. I took down my sew-in literally moments after my anniversary night had ended because the headache would not even allow me to sleep. Because I’m such a hypochondriac, I felt like the tightness of the braids were going to result in me having a blow blood vessel or something XD Dunno how possible that even is from tight braids but at that point, I just needed a reason to explain this excruciating pain.
After taking it down, I went to bed then woke up after a few hours and only experienced subtle soreness of the scalp. This was regular and normal so I felt relieved when I noticed the headache had gone away. Unfortunately, it returned later on that day in the afternoon to my disappointment and I felt so defeated. I thought to myself, what the hell is this pain and how do I get rid of it? I have never remained on pain killers as long as I did throughout this entire ordeal mind you. I felt through my scalp as well and noticed there were a series of scattered scabs on more toward the crown of my head.
I had my sister take a look to confirm that for me which she did so I also was afraid of possible infections. I went online and did some research and found out that the lumps at the back of my neck were actually my lymph nodes that formed to fight off the bacterial infections caused in my hair follicles. They weren’t cancerous after all which was the biggest relief for me and now all I had to do was treat the scabs and wait for them to decrease in size after a matter of a few weeks.
Even though I figured out the source of the lumps, I still had painful headaches that didn’t go away so I finally told my mom about it and she told me to go to the local pharmacy and ask them what they would recommend. From both pharmacies we went to, they both said there was no OTC medication they would give me but to just take some liquid gels instead of the Motrin pills I had been taking. I did and it helped by a shit ton! It’s been 5 days since my last full-blown headache and my lumps at the back of my neck have already started to go down in size after applying some tea tree oil throughout my entire scalp.
So at the moment, my scalp is in the early stages of healing up and needs to be moisturized but until the wounds are completely healed, I won’t be applying any hair products onto it just yet to make sure the infection stays at bay. Get this though. When I was taking down my extensions so early in the morning, I tried to safely take off the closure piece that was unfortunately glued on. I could barely feel the separation of my hair and the closure so I had to just snip away at what I could regardless. I just wanted it out! And look at what happened as a result…
Crazy. I was so pissed but because I have such thick hair, it wasn’t such a terrible loss…but seeing the length of how much I accidentally chopped off was alarming. This really was a lesson learned. I don’t swear off weaves but I do swear off of sew-ins…at least for the next year or so. I don’t need them if this is what could potentially happen from them. Aside from that, I took some shots of the texture of my hair right after I washed it for those who may want to see it…(prior to the terrible hair experience).
As you can see, my hair is far from being bone straight even though I am relaxed. I never meant to purposely texlax my hair but it just happened that way over the years of getting underprocessed touch ups and it doesn’t help since my strands are so thick/coarse.
It looks pretty here, but I’ve yet to have used a product that maintains my texture without making my hair frizzy or too damp. Any suggestions on what I should use? Maybe S-curl? Aside from all this craziness that occurred to my poor hair, scalp, and brain ffs, I still have the length that I did since my last touch up so I’m not mourning over the loss too heavily. I’m more so upset at the amount of time wasted on this process.
But I hope many of you guys out there who are also on a hair journey learn from my experience. I plan on doing alternative methods to wear tracks in the future and when I do, I will explain what I do as thoroughly as I can. I’ll still show you some a pic of my hair when I got it done.
Tried getting purple tips…barely worked but you can slightly see it.